This morning Kiernan didn’t want to go to school. He admittedly had a bit of a cough but I think he just didn’t feel like going to school. I told him he could stay home, but he’d have to go back to bed – and no Wii. This was very upsetting to him, indicating to me that he would have just liked to have stayed home and played Mario all day (or watched Eric play).
Me and school
This had me thinking about my academic career, and how often I was absent throughout it. I think I was known for being the absent kid as far back as early elementary school. My parents had to try to come up with criteria for what qualified as sick – fevers, throwing up, etc. I would try to fake them regularly or just refuse to get up and go.
I hated school. I never felt like I fit in. I felt lonely. I was teased/bullied in elementary school and managed to be mostly invisible in high school.
I had wonderful friends, but not enough to make school anything more than barely tolerable. I was smart enough to pass without making much effort and while missing a lot of school, but not enough to get particularly good grades doing it.
My dreams for the future
I wish I knew how to make sure my own kids have a better school experience than I did. I know I need to let them lead their own lives and figure out their own paths but here is what I wish for them:
- That they feel self confident enough to stand tall and proud and let everyone see how amazing they are;
- That they feel they can tell me/us when things aren’t going well so I can do my best to help improve the situation;
- That bullying really is taken more seriously now so that if other kids are mean to them and they report it to the teachers or monitors, they are taken seriously and not told to buck up;
- That they are lucky enough to find as amazing friends as I had – ones that last a lifetime.
I plan to let them stay home when they’re sick, and sometimes when they just need a day off. I plan to help them learn and prosper. And man do I hope I can make sure that the reasons they don’t want to go to school are no more serious than they would rather be playing Super Mario Galaxy 2!